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<h1>When looking for love or a partner, people are bound to make some mistakes – no one is perfect.</h1>

It might be knowingly or unknowingly, there are some common mistakes that everyone tends to make.

1.Dating your type

If that person does tick every thing on your check list then you automatically rule them out. When trying to find someone for a serious relationship then it would be best to keep an open mind. The perfect person for you may be someone that you least expect it to be.

2.Trying to change someone

They are not your project, they are a human being with real feelings and a personality. If you aren’t attracted to them and see no future between the two of you then move on instead of trying to change who that person is.

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3.Focusing too much on whether you’re doing things right

In the beginning, everyone tends to be more aware of how they act towards someone and are careful not to show their weird side too soon lest they scare someone away, which is normal. There is a flip side to this though and it is the fact that you could be focusing too much on making yourself perfect that you come off fake than genuine.

4.Thinking that because you have good chemistry then you are automatically compatible

Sometimes good chemistry can be confused for compatibility. You may have great vibes with one another but that’s about it. You aren’t able to make important decisions together or even propel each other to discover your greatest potential.

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Dating no-nos.

4 dating mistakes people are guilty of making

<h1>You’ve been in a relationship for a while now and things are going on pretty well. You’ve met his friends and family and are at a point in your relationship that you feel like you can tell him anything without feeling like your overstepping or like he’s going to judge you.</h1>

Okay, honesty and trust are some of the most crucial aspects of being in a relationship and this is not to encourage you to keep things from your man – because every relationship is different- but honestly sometimes it’s better to keep some things to yourself.

1. Never admit that you do not like their mother

You don’t need a genius to explain this to you. Refrain from bad-mouthing their mother even if he starts does it himself.

That’s a boundary that you do not want to cross, ever. He can talk about his mother all he wants – but not be disrespectful of course- because that’s his mother. It’s safe to say that your advice in this case is not needed.

2. Never confess to past infidelities

This is another tricky one. To help figure out whether you should or should not tell your man that you cheated on your previous lover, you need to ask yourself whether telling them will benefit your relationship in the long run.

3. Never admit that his friend hit on you

4. Never tell him all of your friend’s business

Girl code. Could we please just keep the things that we talk about with the girls amongst the girls? I mean, what if your man just lets it slip when they meet your friend one time.

5. Tell him how you think all his friends are losers

Simply put, this is just not cool. And I don’t think you’re really ready to know how he feels about your bestfriend.

They

5 things you should never confess to your boyfriend/girlfriend

<h1>There seems to be no limit to the things women can do in order to get what they want – or in this case what they do not want.</h1>

Pressure to get married has always been there since time immemorial; be it for men or for women.

One main reason why women, in specific, would get pressured to get married is because their biological clocks are ticking.

That does not seem to be much of a problem anymore however as women are now stealing men’s sperms (sperm jacking) for the sole purpose of getting pregnant. Once they get their sperm, they then ditch the guy and go on to raise the children on their own.

Times have definitely changed and the need to get married is not a necessity for a lot of women; taking ‘solutions’ such as sperm jacking as an example.

New ‘solutions’ to not wanting to get married are always coming up and Pulse Live Kenya sought to find out what some of them were – they’re quite interesting.

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1.Some women see marriage as a prison

Some women want to have the freedom to do what they want and when they want to do it without answering to anyone.

With them being married however, it limits some of the things that they want to do such as staying out late in the club with their friends.

Some women have attributed their lack of desire for marriage to women empowerment.

They feel that they are able to improve their quality of lives without needing the help of a man which in some cases would be the reason why some women would get married.

When it comes to physical satisfaction, they are able to get sex whenever and wherever they want.

Some men still get intimidated with the fact that their women are doing well in their field of work.

In such instances, some men may want to manipulate their women into halting their careers for the sake of their marriages or taking care of their children if they have any.

This can prompt women to opt not to get married.

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5.They do not see the need for husbands

From the husbands being lazy to some of them being unable to take care of their families, some women just don't see the need to deal with that in their lives.

Marriage isn't for everyone.

6 reasons why women may not want to marry

<h1>If there’s one thing that’s stressed on when it comes to eating, it has got to be to make sure to eat fruits and vegetables.</h1>

Not only are fruits and vegetables nutritious but they also have amazing health benefits. One fruit or fruits in particular are dates which have been revealed to help in the relief of not one but four pretty serious ailments.

According to research, dates can help relieve hypertension, cholesterol, strokes and heart attacks and here’s how they do just that.

Heart attacks and strokes

Eating dates at least once a day can help prevent atherosclerosis which is the main cause of heart attacks and strokes.

According to a study published in the Journal of Agricultural and Food Chemistry, “eating 3.75 ounces of dates every day for four weeks will help decrease your triglyceride levels by 15 percent while also reducing the amount of oxidation of fats in your blood by as much as 33 percent”.

Atherosclerosis is the hardening of the arteries which is caused by high cholesterol.

Dates also contain potassium which helps to lower the risk of stroke.

A different study conducted by Harvard Medical School found that eating about half a pound of dates a week could help to reduce blood pressure.

“Rigorous trials show that eating strategies such as the Dietary Approaches to Stop Hypertension (DASH) diet, DASH variants like the OmniHeart diet, and Mediterranean-type diets reduce blood pressure in people with hypertension (high blood pressure) and those headed in that direction.”

Dates also have other health benefits such as preventing diarrhea, relieving  constipation and balancing body weight.

This is how they help your heart.

The health benefits of dates for your heart

<h1>Washing your face in the shower can do some serious damage to your skin.</h1>

Yes, it may be easier and faster to get it done in the shower but doing so only damages your skin.

It’s one of the face-washing skin care mistakes that a lot of us are guilty of no doubt but experts really warn against it; and this is why.

“Hot water coming straight onto your face from the shower head can strip away your natural oils and leave your skin barrier weak, vulnerable and cracked,” licensed esthetician in New York City, Charlotte Cho told Buzzfeed.

Scrubbing your face too hard can also affect your skin because it removes the lipids, proteins and fatty acids that protect your skin thus leading to break outs and irritation.

Try wash your face with lukewarm water before getting into the shower. Make sure to pat your face dry and not scrub it to avoid damaging your skin.

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Want healthier skin? Avoid doing this.

The common mistake women make when washing their face

<h1>Every single and searching individual out there has at one point been told that they “will find love when they stop searching for it”, which can be true in some cases but for other singles; they don’t get so lucky.</h1>

The dates get more boring, <a href="https://www.pulselive.co.ke/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/4-reasons-why-you-and-your-crush-won-t-end-up-together-id8703684.html" id="be2b0e09-e588-5fd9-9cdf-8227569cf82d">the crushes keep picking the other guy/girl </a>and honestly it just looks like you are never going to get into a relationship anytime soon.

Even when you don’t realize it, you slowly give up on ever finding the love that you want and these are some indicators that you have.

1.You always think someone is messing with you

You always think that someone who expresses their interest in you is automatically trying to play with you.

You have a hard time trusting someone enough to let them in.

2.You forget what it’s like to be in a relationship

You don’t know whether you’re doing the right thing as a boyfriend or girlfriend because you’ve been single for so long.

You’re confused on how to act while in a relationship.

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3.You start thinking that there is something wrong with you

Every attempt at getting into a serious relationship has failed and you start wondering whether you could be the reason for that – which could be true in some cases.

For the women, you end up rejecting great guys that may have been more than just friends.

5.You get overwhelmed when thinking about first dates

First dates are nerve-wracking even with an active dating life but when you’re in that space where you have given up on love, the thought of going through first dates again just feels like a hustle.

For the not so lucky in the love department.

5 things that happen to you when you give up on love

<h1>Men who wear boxers are reportedly more likely to be more fertile than those who wear tight underwear such as briefs.</h1>

This is according to a new study published on Wednesday in the journal Human Reproduction.

<a href="https://www.pulselive.co.ke/lifestyle/beauty-health/8-foods-to-eat-for-an-increase-in-sperm-count-id8292093.html" id="9a7614e9-0b7e-5ae9-9d9a-166de1a7f054">Men who wore boxers were found to have a higher sperm count</a> and a higher sperm concentration as compared to those that wear tight fitting innerwear.

Temperatures of between three to four degrees Celsius is required for successful sperm production.

These types of conditions can be achieved in a free-hanging scrotum.

Wearing tight underwear can cause “mild, but significant, impaired sperm production in men”, as explained by an honorary professor from the University of Edinburgh’s MRC Centre for Reproductive Health, Richard Sharpe.

How the study was conducted

656 men between the ages of 18 and 56 who, together with their partners, were seeking infertility treatment were studied.

Every man provided semen and blood samples. They also answered a questionnaire about their underwear.

Those that wore boxer shorts exhibited a 25 percent higher sperm concentration, a 17 percent higher sperm count, a 33 percent more motile sperm and 14 percent lower levels of follicle stimulating hormone as compared to those men that wore tight underwear – this is also factoring in certain lifestyle indicators such as smoking and physical activity.

“It may not be possible to generalize out findings to men from the general population,” said lead researcher Lidia Mínguez-Alarcón.

There is still a need for follow up research in order to get a definitive finding on whether tight underwear alone causes a dip in sperm production and quality but Ms. Mínguez-Alarcón maintains that “results from this study are very practical. Men could improve their sperm production by easily changing their type of underwear worn to boxers.”

How your underwear affects your swimmers.

How the type of underwear men wear can affect their fertility

<h1>If you’ve been wracking your brain trying to find out why you can’t seem to find the right guy for you; the problem may be you.</h1>

<a href="https://www.pulselive.co.ke/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/top-7-worst-dating-mistakes-every-single-woman-makes-id8300783.html" id="91da11ac-ea99-5c00-b717-2b5a5d16ba3d">You’ve done everything; from going on dates to blind dates but the guy you like always ends up with someone else.</a>

Here are four possible reasons as outlined by relationship site Relationship Rules.

1.You take life too seriously

Basically, learn to have a little bit of fun and not be so serious about everything. Enjoy life to the fullest.

2.You come off too strong

You meet someone, things kick off well but even before your relationship begins, you’ve already started acting as if the two of you are going to be together forever.

Take things slow and let them work themselves out. If it’s meant to happen then it will happen; don’t force it.

3.Unreasonable expectations

There is no such thing as a perfect man so stop searching for him. The man that you find will have flaws and all but he will be perfect for you. Exercise tolerance.

4.You aren’t interesting to that person

Maybe you just aren’t that person’s type. Sucks but sometimes it be like that.

Well, this sucks.

4 possible reasons why your crush will end up with the other girl and not you

<h1>Sharon Mundia has been killing it with her style the past few weeks.</h1>

<a href="https://www.pulselive.co.ke/lifestyle/fashion/kenyan-fashionistas-show-us-how-to-rock-cold-weather-style-id8578074.html" id="a0906138-7bce-5001-9625-bead8c659c64">It’s nothing new that she has been murdering it in the fashion department</a> - she initially came out as a fashion blogger -but it would be ignorant not to notice the shift in her style.

There’s a certain sophistication and grown girl look that she’s serving up and her stylist Njoki Mohammed is nailing the theme with every look.

<a href="https://www.pulselive.co.ke/entertainment/sharon-mundia-to-replace-kobi-kihara-at-ntv-id8642940.html" id="51366e7d-64c6-5966-b5ca-0252a1226abb">She has mastered being stylish and still being appropriate for the office environment.</a>

For those looking for inspiration, it's time to ditch the boring, stale "office look" and take a page of off This is Ess fashion book

1. You can never go wrong with floral.

2. Ruffles are in. Maybe you can steal this look for your ruffle top.

3.Mustard yellow jumpsuit. Check. Melanin. Check. Slaaay!

4.The high ponytail, the white ruffled top, the pants - fire.

5.Love the black and red ensemble.

6.Love the design of her dress. It's both playful and work appropriate at the same time.

7.As we said before, <a href="https://www.pulselive.co.ke/lifestyle/fashion/lilian-muli-shows-us-how-to-rock-ruffles-id8394933.html" id="f96b308f-3f2e-5ef7-8b78-0c3c87bb5db4">ruffles are in</a> and this black jumpsuit is proof.

How amazing does she look. Can't wait for more.

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She's been killing it!

7 office style looks you should definitely steal from This is Ess (Photos)

<h1>One of the first thoughts that would come to mind when thinking about the health benefits of cranberry juice is the fact that it treats UTIs, amongst other infections.</h1>

That is however not the only benefit of cranberry juice for the body.

Cranberry juice can also be used to treat acne.

This is all attributed to the antiseptic properties that cranberry juice has.

It is also very rich in an anti-oxidant known as resveratrol which helps to minimize acne and pimples.

A simple face mask using cranberry juice can help make this possible.

Cranberry juice mask recipe

Create a paste by mixing cranberry juice, orange peel powder and a bit of honey.

Apply the paste all over your face.

Let it sit for about 20 minutes before washing it off with warm water.

Get clearer, smoother skin with this simple recipe.

How to use cranberry juice to treat acne

<h1>It’s World Breastfeeding Week and this year’s theme is</h1>

This of course touches on the first meal that babies have – breastmilk.

Thanks to its nutritional value, breastmilk provides numerous benefits for a baby.

It also provides numerous benefits for the mother.

1.Nutrition for the baby

As mentioned before, breastmilk is very nutritional for the baby.

It contains all the necessary nutrients that a baby would need, aside from Vitamin D, for the first six months before weaning starts.

2.Increases your baby’s IQ

Studies have suggested that breastfed babies have higher IQs as compared to those that were fed formula. This is apparently attributed to the physical intimacy, touch and eye contact associated with breastfeeding.

Breastmilk is pumped with antibodies that help the baby’s body fight off viruses and bacteria.

The very first milk that babies get which is the colostrum contains antibodies such as immunoglobulin which protects the baby from getting sick by creating a protective layer in the baby’s nose, throat and digestive tract.

4.Reduces the risk of getting diabetes

Breastfeeding can reduce a mother’s chance of getting diabetes. <a href="https://www.pulselive.co.ke/lifestyle/beauty-health/breastfeeding-for-6-months-cuts-diabetes-risk-in-half-id7857541.html" id="062a5f3e-e1ce-5251-8352-7d7badcb1082">This is according to a study conducted by the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) Internal Medicine that found that protective effects through hormones are released after breastfeeding which act in the pancreas, thus controlling blood insulin and sugar levels.</a>

5.Lowers depression in mothers

Mothers that breastfeed have increased amounts of oxytocin which reportedly encourages caregiving, relaxation and bonding between a mother and child.

This in turn decreases the risks of mothers develop post-partum depression.

6.Breastfeeding helps to contract the uterus

The increased levels of oxytocin cause the uterus to contract. This reduces blood loss after delivery and the uterus returns to its normal size.

7.Breastfeeding helps in weight loss

Between 3-6 months after giving birth, breastfeeding mothers have shown to lose more weight than those that don’t breastfeed at all.

Breastfeeding benefits both the mother and baby.

8 benefits of breastfeeding for the mother and baby

<h1>You and your girlfriend/boyfriend broke up again – for like the 15 time.</h1>

And each time you convince yourself that you are completely done with them.

By some miracle, your mind is changed again and the two of you get back together.

And the cycle goes on and on – but for how long though?

Here are some reasons to say goodbye to them for good.

1.It is unhealthy

Emotionally and mentally, it can’t be healthy to constantly be breaking up and getting back together with your boyfriend.

The relationship is not healthy at all.

2.It is exhausting

An unhealthy relationship is definitely exhausting. You have to deal with someone promising to change and when you get back with them they do the exact same thing they said they wouldn’t and then you end up breaking up again – phew.

3.You get too comfortable

On and off again relationships can cause you to get too used to being treated some way and that can in turn change the way you view relationships.

Don’t get too comfortable chasing the thrill of an on again off again relationship.

4.You are chasing a fantasy other than facing reality

You are just with that person because you are used to them and not because they are good for you.

It's time.

4 reasons why you need to finally end your on and off again relationship

<h1>There’s no denying that wearing acrylic nails has become somewhat of a regular routine for a lot of women and we don’t see the trend going away any time soon.</h1>

<a href="https://www.pulselive.co.ke/lifestyle/beauty-7-things-you-should-not-be-doing-with-your-gel-manicure-id6889639.html" id="ff3ac590-95f1-5658-97da-e164748d5c5f">As fun and amazing as these additions are to enhancing women’s beauty though</a>, comes the not so amazing side of them.

From weak nails to having your nails looking a bit ‘dehydrated’; your nail aftercare is very important in ensuring you maintain healthy nails.

Here are some tips on how you can repair damaged nails after taking out acrylics.

Give your nails a break

You know how you give your hair a break after braiding for a while, then you need to do the exact same thing for your nails.

Right after getting your acrylics out, make sure to give your nails some time to breath before deciding to put a fresh set of acrylics or nail polish.

Try home-made recipes

Try out home remedies to help repair your nails.

For instance, Instyle recommends using treatments such as Vitamin E, olive and coconut oil to help care for your cuticles. This helps in making sure that your cuticles receive the necessary nutrients for healthy nail growth.

You can also soak your nails in olive oil, milk, orange juice or garlic oil for 10-15 minutes a couple of days a week.

Get a nail strengthener

There are numerous nail strengtheners that are easily accessible in chemists or supermarkets that can greatly help in repairing nails.

Do not take your acrylic nails out by yourself

There is a reason why manicurists exist so take advantage of yours especially when it comes to taking out your acrylics.

They will help advise on how to properly take care of your nails.

Opt to keep your nails short when you eventually take out your acrylics. This is because your nails may be a bit weak after removal therefore unable to handle length.

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4 dating mistakes people are guilty of making

5 things you should never confess to your boyfriend/girlfriend

6 reasons why women may not want to marry

The health benefits of dates for your heart

The common mistake women make when washing their face

5 things that happen to you when you give up on love

How the type of underwear men wear can affect their fertility

4 possible reasons why your crush will end up with the other girl and not you

7 office style looks you should definitely steal from This is Ess (Photos)

How to use cranberry juice to treat acne

8 benefits of breastfeeding for the mother and baby

4 reasons why you need to finally end your on and off again relationship

How to make sure your nails stay healthy after removing fake nails

5 clear signs you are dating a mean person

5 popular Nigerian dances Kenyans can’t get enough of

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