It starts as a joke, in a playful way, it’s like you’re just friends before you realise you’re entertaining unholy thoughts about them, these thoughts lead to exchanging naughty messages one thing leads to the other.
Then you land in bed with them and you’re filled with regrets. One thing about cheating is that you don’t stop, once you didn’t get caught you’ll keep doing it till one day you’re in a fix and don’t know how to get out of it.
If you’ve started smiling at their texts and deleting messages you’re already on your way and this is to warn you about why you should make a U-turn immediately.
Pleasure lasts for a minute but the dent is forever
The pleasure derived from this escapade will not last. If it was supposed to last you wouldn’t have cheated on your partner in the first place. You may be doing it for fun but once you’re caught you won’t be smiling, there will forever be a crack in the trust they have for you that is if they forgive you.
They’ll doubt everything you do and it gets tiring when they need to double-check everything before they’re satisfied. You’ll find yourself explaining and explaining something just for them not to doubt you.
Damage to your partner’s self-esteem
When you cheat on your partner you damage their confidence, and they will start to think they aren’t good enough and will question their self-worth. It may not be their fault it could be your selfishness but they’ll still blame themselves for it and once your partner is unhappy with themselves, it will start to rub off on you and that’s not how you want to live your life.
It’s expensive
You have to pay for rooms because you can’t take them home. You’ll also pay for a hotel or a fancy restaurant sometimes as you become a sponsor for the person you’re cheating with. You sponsor their rent, their food sometimes even education as a form of compensation. Meanwhile, you could’ve used that money for something else that would have benefited you and your partner.
You won’t marry them
If today you’re caught cheating and your spouse walks out of the marriage, most likely you won’t marry whoever you’re cheating with. Once you’re caught and your relationship is in shambles, it is at that point too that your extramarital affair will also fall apart.
You’ll realise that you didn’t love that person as much as you care for your partner and the thought of losing them will take a toll on you. You will find yourself asking what you saw in them to make you cheat.
Don’t wait until it’s too late to regret it. Cheating is not worth it, so save yourself the stress and make your relationship work.