But as long as there are colleges, employers, credit card companies, sports teams, and, of course, relationships, rejection is here to stay. So you better get used to dealing with it STAT.

And while it might seem like you need to get over rejection alone, you don't. This expert advice will help you deal with getting dumped , ghosted, or swiped left on:

1. Scratch the word "rejection."

If someone rejects you, it implies they actively chose against you because of you. But about 90 percent of the time, what happened was because of them, says Terri Orbuch, PhD, a research professor at the University of Michigans Institute for Social Research and author of . "If you think about it as them, you dont really have to cope with it," she says. And, as Wright puts it, "view this as happening for you, not to you."

2. Don't blame yourself.

Lets reiterate: Its probably not about you. To drive this home, try thinking about the situation using what psychologists call "other-oriented blame statements," like "He wasnt ready for a relationship" or "She didnt get my sense of humor."

"If you blame yourself," Orbuch says, "that affects self-esteem and mood and how you feel about yourself going forward." And that's not good. shows that when people integrate experiences of rejection into their own self-image, the impact lingers. When in self-doubt, remember that rejection has nothing to do with you as a person-it's more about the other person not being the right match.

3. Comisserate.

Rejection has been around as long as humankind, but dating apps make rejection a lot more in-your-face these days. After all, before swiping left there was not getting asked out by someone you didnt even know existed (ah, the good ole days).

Rejection may also just happen more now since dating apps and sites make it seem like theres an infinite pool of potential partners. "Theres the notion that you can always do better," says Orbuch. The point (again): Its not about you. "If you can talk to your friends in the situation, youll realize youre not alone," says Orbuch. "That helps you with depersonalizing it."

Need more proof that rejection happens to literally everyone? Even 'The Bachelor' Colton isn't immune!

4. Ask for praise.

Sometimes, you just need people who actually know you and love you to tell you how rad you are. Requesting positive feedback, if you will, can help those loved ones-who, btw, may be tiptoeing around your heartache-feel empowered to help. "Why not just tell your bff or sister, 'Im so down, I just got ghosted, can you tell me why Im OK?'" Orbuch suggests. "That person will have a million compliments to give you and help you feel better about yourself." After all, what are friends for?

5. Exercise.

All hail Elle Woods, who said in Legally Blonde, "Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don't shoot their husbands, they just don't."

But that's not just an #iconic movie quote, it's also some solid advice. "Elle had a really important point here," says Wright, and thats that movement helps you process emotions and recruit happy feelings to your brain and heart. Plus, research has shown time and again that exercise is a mood enhancer and can also help you feel powerful and in control-exactly what you need after being rejected.

6. Sleep.

Like exercise, sleep makes pretty much everything better, including rejection. One showed that sleep-deprived people not only feel lonelier and naturally isolate themselves, but they actually appear more "socially repulsive" to others (according to brain scans), which just perpetuates a vicious cycle of loneliness. Um, bedtime!

7. Volunteer.

Rejection hurts because, on the most basic human level, you want and need to feel like you belong. So, while getting turned down basically makes you think you dont, volunteering can help you feel like you belong somewhere because you become a part of something bigger than yourself.

Beyond that, volunteer work helps get you out of your head and do something good for the world, Orbuch says. Plus, has linked volunteering with less depression, greater life satisfaction, and boosted well-being.

8. Get crafty.

The self-blame spiral is real, Wright says, and if you want to break out of it, you may need to activate a different part of your brain than the one the rejection activated. "Allow your brain to go from the rational side to the creative side," she suggests, by doing something like pottery or art, or listening to mood-boosting music. One found that listening to powerful music like 2 Unlimited's "Get Ready for This" elicits feelings of power-especially if you've cranked up the bass.

9. Be thankful.

Whoever rejected you did you a favor. "Every person who 'rejects' you is giving you information about what you want and don't want-and frees you up to be available for your forever person," says Wright. "If you want one super successful and happy relationship in your life, a lot are going to have to 'fail' to find it. Its like finding the right pair of jeans... you gotta try a lot on before you find the one that fits your body like a glove."