All its forms except sexting.

I think sexting is actually the worst. Im coming into this argument having spent the better part of my adult sexual life mastering the art of sexting. The entire arc of it-from the first U up? to the filthy video montage climax. It was a good ride, sexting. But if I never sexted again Im pretty sure Id die a better person.

Its a common fear that sex will get stale when it comes to actual, physical sex. But its appalling how quickly cybersex gets stale when youre reading from a script. Case in point: I had been dating someone for just under two months-peak sex time when youre both at your horniest-and after just a few sexting sessions he started to home in on the same hot-button words. How many times can you say rock hard before it starts to lose its meaning? After a while the tumescent euphemism triggered an eyeroll, rather than a panty drop. Call me crazy, but lack of creativity in sexting leads me to believe youre probably not that versatile in bed IRL.

Its Lazy

In the beginning phases of a new relationship (however you define relationship), it can be exciting to get that occasional, Im thinking about you naked text while youre in the middle of a meeting. But that can eventually become your demise. Sexting ultimately becomes a crutch people use to avoid seeing each other in real life, whether they realize it or not.

And who can blame you? Who wants to go through the process of dating, making small talk, fighting the fray of meaningless date after date, or even put on pants when a sexual encounter is just a few taps away. You know you can touch yourself better than anyone else, so why not do it while a real, live person sends you naked pics? Its a great system.

Until you actually do want to have a meaningful sexual relationship with someone in person.

My boyfriend and I used to have sex all the time when I got home from work, says Rebecca G, 31. He worked from home, so wed sext during the day until that moment I walked in the door and we could go at it. But after a while, while the day sexting would continue, Id get home and hed be over the actual sex part. Im not saying the sexting was the entire reason, but maybe if we sexted less wed have actual sex more.

Were not in this for the sexting, just FYI.

Its Repetitive

How many times can you say yeah, I like that over and over? How many different angles can you actually find when sending sexy selfies? There arent enough filters or camera angles in the world to keep sexting exciting enough when compared to actual sex.

After a while you come to anticipate what the person is going to say on the other end. And whats worse than an in-real-life sexual rut? A sexual rut where you arent even making physical contact.

If I had to say, Spread my ass in a text message one more time I was going to lose my mind, says Kristen D., 24. After a while dont you get tired of the same dirty talk? How does that still even work for you?

Its Fleeting

Much like swipe culture, sexting is so impersonal that it is easily abandoned. Instead of breaking up with someone all you really have to do is...not respond. You never know how many other people your sext buddy is sexting with on their end. Where you lack in one department, he or she is likely making up for it in another. Its easy to become just another number on the screen.

Im guilty of it. If youre boring me, I have like three other people I can sext. Its way better than having to end something in real life. I just move on to the next, says Steve R., 34. Plus, Im not even going out and spending money on dates. I like having a string of women I can sext. Its my own Rolodex of personalized porn.

Thats not to say that all women want flowers and to be showered with gifts. But we would like you to show up, at the very least. Sexting has become so ubiquitous and easy that it tends to suffice during courtship. Didnt get to see each other this week? Lets have a healthy, sweaty volley of voluptuous verbiage until we both pass out in separate beds.

I get what you want to do to me. Come over and do it, says Carrie B., 36.

I dont think sexting should be eliminated. I think it has a time and a place. But in our culture of living in and off of our cellphones it has made us sexually and romantically lazy. Id rather be having sex with you than talking about it.