Meanwhile, it feels like so many guys are hesitant to try a butt toy because of the social stigma around putting things in the rear.
When this author decided to ask a bunch of dudes about their experiences, I was very skeptical. I doubt many people will be open to talking about this, I wrote to my editor.
Once I began asking around, I was proven very wrong indeed. Lots of guys have not only tried prostate massagers and experienced the many wonders they can provide, but many were open to sharing their experiences with Mens Health for the greater good.
Here are 9 real men on their first time experiences with a prostate massager. Stories have been edited for length and clarity.
"Sometimes the toy could make orgasm more intense as my muscles tensed around it, sometimes it diminished it. Sometimes it was better to pop it out again just at the point of orgasm. It was definitely fun, and Id use one again." - Charlie, 48
"I first used a prostate massager about ten years ago. After my divorce, I got more sexually adventurous and tried some stuff that my ex-wife just wasnt into. One woman I dated liked to insert a finger into my a*s and I really liked it. I had kinda sorta experimented with some butt play in my twenties, but being older gave it a new sensation, for some reason. So I went out and bought a vibrating prostate massager. My partner would use it on me while masturbating me or I would masturbate myself. As I was about to come, she would insert it as deep as it would go and the orgasms were incredibly intense. I love a prostate massager and I still use it frequently." - Jim*, 50
"When I got my first prostate massager, I didnt think it would be as good as fingers or a strap-on dildo. I thought it would just be an enhancement to jerking off or receiving oral. The massager was a stubby rubber-covered vibe with a slight bend and a remote control connected by a cord. The first time was awkward and took experimentation to find a good angle and grip. To help it get in further, I was laying on my back with a pillow underneath my bottom.
"At first I was using the massager and stroking my penis, but after a couple [of] minutes at a higher speed pressing against my prostate, I let go of my dick and focused on the massager. It felt good and the sensation was focused at first but when I started massaging my prostate in a circular pattern like my wifes fingers did I felt warm tingles spread over my crotch and a tickling buzz inside my shaft. I felt myself starting to shake like before. I pumped my hips a bit and the vibration felt like it was creeping up my body. I was even feeling it in my nipples and the back of my throat. I remember losing myself for a moment or two and just feeling everything. At that point the rhythm and vibration was intense and it was like my whole body was contracting. That was enough to push me to the edge." - Sean, 44
"I have tried it several times. While it was always pleasurable, I have yet to reach a P-orgasm. I use the Hugo." - Jon, 52
"I was given the Larque to review, and I'd never used a prostate massager before ... I was in my late 30s when I first tried it. I enjoyed it, and continue to enjoy P-spot massage into my early 40s. Prostate massaging is not a regular activity I do for solo or partner play; I like it in conjunction with penis stimulation." - Phil, 41
"I guess for me, the main thing is that I've never had one of those full-body prostate orgasms that you hear so much about-I don't know if I'm doing it wrong, or it's just the way my body works. It definitely makes regular orgasms more intense though, and I like the sensation of being full. Also, it's fun to use with a partner because it's a little power play." - Steve*, 24
"My one and only time with one was when my ex and I decided to get experimental. It was quite pleasurable after I got over the anxiety brought on by trying something new and my comfort level increased. She also had fun using it on me, and the orgasm I achieved was one of the more intense that Ive experienced." - James, 38
"After having my butt fingered for a while, a girlfriend used a G-spot vibrator on my prostate while giving me a BJ. When I came, I went temporarily deaf with ecstasy. Needless to say Im a big fan!" - Bradley*, 47
"My first experience was as an 18-year-old young, horny, gay male. I went to the local adult toy store when I turned 18, and the shopkeeper directed my naive self to the prostate massagers. I ended up purchasing the simplest one; a hard, black plastic one. I went home to experiment with this and locked my door and put the lube all over the massager and lay down and slowly inserted it, with a little pain at first. I wiggled it around until I finally found the prostate, and boy was I surprised!!! It felt amazing and I was instantly hard ... I began to masturbate making it feel even better. I came the hardest that I ever had, and much more pleasurable than I ever had. Overall this experience led me on a journey to exploring my sexuality as a bottom." - Greg*, 20
"The first time was one of the five best orgasms I've had in my life. It was a lot of fun and I have done it again a few times." - Mike, 41
*Names have been changed to allow subjects to speak freely on private matters.