In the grand performance of modern dating, it’s not unusual for men to loosen the purse strings in an attempt to catch a woman’s eye. From pricey dinners to showy accessories, some go to great (and frankly unnecessary) lengths in pursuit of admiration. But the truth is, spending heavily doesn’t always translate to lasting appeal — and in many cases, it’s a complete waste of money.
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Here are six things men should stop spending money on just to impress women — because in the end, confidence, character and consistency will always speak louder than cash.
1. Overpriced Designer Gear (Especially If It’s Not Your Style)
There’s a fine line between dressing well and drowning in designer logos. If you’re splashing out on luxury brands you don't genuinely like — purely for appearances — take a step back. Most women appreciate authenticity over excess, and style isn’t about the label. It’s about wearing what suits you, and wearing it well.
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✨ What actually works? Clean shoes, a sharp haircut, and clothes that fit you properly.
2. Flashy Cars You Can’t Afford
Driving a nice car is great — if it fits within your budget. But financing an expensive vehicle or hiring a luxury car just to impress is neither sustainable nor smart. It’s not the wheels that matter — it’s where you’re going in life.
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🚗 Truth is, most women would rather you drive a paid-off saloon than a shiny BMW you can’t afford.
3. Buying the Entire Bar a Round
Being generous is lovely. But buying drinks for the entire bar on a night out just to show you’ve “got it like that” is not only unnecessary, it can come across as desperate. Flashy gestures don’t equal genuine charm.
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🍷 A thoughtful dinner or fun outing is far more impressive than splurging in one evening.
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4. Lavish Gifts Too Soon
Some men jump straight from “hello” to gifting a smartphone or designer handbag. Slow down. Showering someone with expensive gifts early on can seem like you’re trying to buy affection — and that’s never a good look.
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🎁 If she’s genuinely interested, you won’t need to bribe her with presents.
5. Subscribing to Status Symbols
Joining elite gyms, country clubs or private circles just to look accomplished doesn’t necessarily make you attractive. Real substance beats shiny distractions. If you don’t actually enjoy golf or luxury wellness spas, don’t pretend.
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💪🏽 Use your money to build yourself up — not to build an image.
6. Social Media Stunts
From hiring penthouses for photos to posing beside rented cars — the social media flex culture is at an all-time high. But most women can tell when it’s all smoke and mirrors. Flaunting a lifestyle you don’t really live might impress some — but it’s not sustainable, or genuine.
📱 Stop pretending. Authenticity always wins in the end.
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Ultimately, the things that truly win a woman over — respect, emotional intelligence, ambition, a sense of humour — don’t come with a price tag. Before spending money to impress, ask yourself: “Is this really necessary, or am I trying to prove something?”
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Because the right woman won’t care how much you spend — she’ll care how you make her feel.