As we should know by now, penetrative sex isn’t the only form of intercourse. There are other types of sex, known as outer sex, and they involve oral sex and hand ‘stuff’ like a hand job. But orgasming through this means is not always easy.
Sometimes, you think your partner is experiencing pleasure when it’s actually painful. Hand jobs are not just for teenagers; they can be very pleasurable and give partners a chance to connect with each other.
Here's what makes it less pleasurable.
No lubrication
You surely didn’t think it’s only women who need lubricant. The entire purpose of lubrication is to oil a woman as well as a man’s sexual organs. That’s why even when giving a hand job lubrication is necessary. Of course, you don’t want to use skin lotion as he might have an adverse reaction. So, use coconut oil, castor oil or even Vaseline.
Long nails
You don’t want to scratch him with your long nails, so you have to be extra careful. Plus, a bleeding penis isn’t sexy at all. Use your palms more.
Tugging too hard
Yes, you don’t want to pull it too much, you are not trying to remove it now. Remember you are trying to simulate what penetration feels like, so don’t tug too hard or too fast.
It’s not exciting
Sometimes, it’s alright if he wants to just sit back and enjoy it, but you know what would make it exciting? If he touches you too and adds some spice to it.