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Guys come up with all sorts of stories these days about marriage, when truly they actually want to do damage. As a lady you should be smart to read between the lines and see the vivid signs.

But it all lies in your hands to act and take the needed decision. It is not about dragging the horse to the water, it’s whether the horse really wants to drink.

Read these signs carefully and make them your best friend. These sure signs will help you detect the time waster from afar.

If your guy asks you how you want your dream wedding to be , your preferred wedding colours, ring size or likes to raise some important aspect of the wedding he is particular about, then he is definitely planning to settle down with you.

Men naturally are wired to know the details and intricacies of every project they want to get involved in. Yes! project. A wedding is like a project to a man, and factors such as accommodation, career development, finances etc. are considered. The interesting thing about this is that he plans all this with you in mind. He is genuinely concerned about how these seemingly minute details will affect your life.

<h2>3. He delights in your happiness</h2>

If a guy goes out of his way consistently and genuinely to do tasks or go on events he normally would not go to, just to make you happy, he is definitely gearing to pop up the marriage question. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean those “escortoryors”-professional escorts on the prowl who pretend to please you. The serious marriage minded guy does not complain about it. He does not care how he is going to look before his friends. Watch out for his body language when he is accompanying you, Is he comfortable? He might not be excited, but is he there mind, body and soul? Is he genuinely Interested in knowing more about what you love?

A guy who is ready to get married to a woman, genuinely wants her to make progress. Guys want their women to rep them in a good way, so they want to help their women become better. He always wants to know about your career, job, hobby or craft. Does he proffer solutions to challenges that seem to weigh you down? Now I do not mean being possessive, judgemental and demeaning. Traits of jealousy and competition are a NO-NO.

<h2>5. He entrusts you with his life</h2>

Hey! Ladies, this is not to say if your guy is not telling you things, he is not ready to get married. One thing you have to understand is that trust is earned. A guy who wants to get married to you, will eventually open up to you, when he finds out you are genuinely concerned about his welfare. We call it wife material. When a guy finds his “wife material” he starts asking for your opinion on everything, he opens his inner thoughts, fears and deep feelings. He practically shares his life with you. That does not mean he is not ready for marriage if he is not doing all this now. It is a gradual process. Give him time, and give him that motherly love and care without judging him.

If your guy wants you to meet his family, be around him at family events, meet his siblings and people he loves, he really wants to settle down with you. He has seen you as a member of his family.

Guys get emotional and soft when they have found the woman they want to spend their lives with. They are not scared to let you know how they feel. He is not ashamed to tell you how much you mean to him. He is always telling you how special you are to him.

When your guy jokingly asks about the names of your kids, or the number of kids you want to have, he is actually considering the motherly side of the woman he wants to spend his life with. You have to understand that it takes commitment to raise kids, and for a guy to talk or joke about them often, he really means to spend his life with you.

8 signs your guy really wants to marry you

These sure signs will help you detect the time waster from afar.

The Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) postponed the election earlier slated to hold on Saturday, February 16, 2019.

There are 72 presidential candidates in this election and the front-runners however are Atiku Abubakar of the PDP, Muhammadu Buhari of the APC, Kingsley Moghalu of the YPP, Fela Durotoye of the ANN and Omoyele Sowore of the AAC.

You can follow the election result here as Pulse will be bringing you LIVE updates from the states until the winner is announced.

The presidential election is holding today, Saturday, February 23, 2019.

Get Live updates of presidential election results here

<h1>The Buhari Media Organisation (BMO) has accused the United States President, Donald Trump of hate speech.</h1>

BMO in a statement made available to newsmen, reacted to the US President’s statement <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/news/local/trump-called-buhari-lifeless-after-april-meeting-id8774488.html" id="9108fbbc-42c8-5af8-a564-189f96647054">allegedly insulting President Buhari.</a>

A report by Financial Times revealed that Trump told his aides that he did not want to meet with Buhari again, describing him as lifeless.

Nigeria’s President was in the US in April 2018, for a meeting with President Trump.

The group said “President Muhammadu Buhari is fit and capable to run for the 2019 elections and oversee the affairs of the country for four more years President Donald Trump’s hate speech notwithstanding.”

According to Vanguard, BMO also said that President Trump’s disrespectful attitude towards world leaders is not new.

“We are aware that President Trump’s disrespect for World Leaders is not new; his comments on Canada’s Prime Minister, Justin Trudeau, calling him ‘meek and mild’; his reference to Germany’s Leader, Angela Merkel’s actions as ‘insane’, or his outlandish Tweet at the UK’s Theresa May, and more recently, the alleged remarks he made after meeting President Buhari.

“It is indeed not the first time President Trump would be heard to lower the standards of respect for his colleagues on the World Stage. We are not surprised, we know that this age-long character of the US President would not change anytime soon. But it is important that we put it on record that President Buhari remains fit and sprightly, even for the next decade.

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“We recall that during President Buhari’s visit to Trump in the White House, the US President commended the successes that the Buhari administration had recorded especially in the fight against insurgency and the war on corruption. The US President was full of admiration for Nigeria’s President during the visit, thus such outlandish remarks as reported by the Financial Times are not just to be taken with a pinch of salt but are untrue in themselves.”

BMO also stated that President Buhari’s 800m walk in Daura, Katsina state, <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/news/local/buhari-just-told-us-the-real-reason-for-his-800m-walk-in-daura-id8768296.html" id="f534d120-9358-5583-a7e1-716db5c78de3">though not a show-off,</a> is a proof of his fitness.

The group also added that the President will not be moved by the statement of the United Sates President.

Meanwhile, Yoruba socio-cultural group, <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/news/local/afenifere-backs-trumps-alleged-lifeless-president-statement-id8777272.html" id="ecb06c8c-c00a-57d8-ac43-472758f7d410">Afenifere has issued a statement</a> supporting the statement reportedly made by President Donald Trump.

BMO in a statement made available to newsmen, reacted to the US President’s statement allegedly insulting President Buhari.

Buhari Media Organisation accuses Donald Trump of hate speech

<h1>Leaders across the world have reacted to the death of former United Nations Secretary-General, Kofi Annan.</h1>

According to AFP, the former UN chief died on Saturday, August 18, 2018 after a brief illness, at the age of 80.

Annan was the first person from Sub-Saharan Africa to become UN chief and he served from 1997 to 2006.

Announcing his death, the Kofi Annan foundation put out a post on Twitter, saying “It is with immense sadness that the Annan family and the Kofi Annan Foundation announce that Kofi Annan, former Secretary General of the United Nations and Nobel Peace Laureate, passed away peacefully on Saturday 18th August after a short illness.”

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In his reaction, UN Secretary-General, Antonio Guterres expressed sadness over the news of Annan’s demise.

Guterres, who described the former UN chief as a mentor also said  "in many ways, Kofi Annan was the United Nations.

"He rose through the ranks to lead the organisation into the new millennium with matchless dignity and determination.”

India’s Prime Minister, Narendra Modi also commented on the death of the former UN boss.

Modi, in a series of posts on twitter said, “Mr. Kofi Annan’s significant contribution to the MDGs will always be remembered. My thoughts are with his family and admirers in this hour of grief. May his soul rest in peace.”

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What the President of India, Rashtrapati Bhavan had to say

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Mayor of London, Sadiq Khan tweets

Mayor of London, Sadiq Khan described Annan as a bridge builder who dedicated his life to human rights.

“Sad to hear the news of the death of Kofi Annan. As a former UN secretary-general and Nobel Peace Laureate, he dedicated his life to human rights and building bridges between nations. He will always be remembered as a great humanitarian and a tireless advocate for peace,” he added.

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Ghana’s President, Nana-Akufo-Addo

Nana-Akufo-Addo, the President of Ghana expressed sadness following the former UN chief’s death.

He also posted on Twitter saying, “The Government and people of Ghana, First Lady Rebecca and I are deeply saddened by the news of the death, in Berne, Switzerland, of one of our greatest compatriots, Mr. Kofi Annan.”

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Nigeria's Senate President, Saraki, others react

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Kofi Annan and the United Nations were the co-recipients of the 2001 Nobel Peace Prize.

Ghana, India, Kenya Presidents, others mourn former UN chief

<h1>Nigeria’s Vice-President Yemi Osinbajo has revealed that the Federal Government is working on a loan facility for business owners in Nigeria.</h1>

According to Daily Post, the Vice-President said that the loans, which will be collateral free, will range from N2m to N10m.

The VP also said that the Bank of Industry (BOI), Federal Inland Revenue Service (FIRS), Nigerian Export-Import Bank (NEXIM) and the Nigerian Export Promotion Council (NEPC) will be part of the loan initiative.

Osinbajo pitches Nigeria’s tech space to global leaders

In July 2018, <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/bi/tech/osinbajo-is-visiting-hollywood-and-silicon-valley-id8594878.html" id="433c7696-a6ca-51c2-a167-18e11ad5f91f">Osinbajo was in the United States</a>to speak to top technology players about the investment opportunities in Nigeria’s tech and entertainment industry.

The Vice-President led Nigeria’s delegation to the Silicon Valley in San Francisco and Hollywood in Los Angeles, California to meet with top industry leaders in the world.

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Osinbajo also met with Google executives at the company's corporate headquarters in the Silicon Valley.

Yemi Osinbajo is currently standing in as the Acting President following President Buhari’s departure to London on Friday, August 3, for a <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/news/local/buhari-to-spend-10-day-holiday-in-london-id8679843.html" id="b79a36cb-76d3-5349-b36f-4cfe2058587f">10 day working holiday.</a>

Osinbajo said this while speaking at the MSMEs Award 2018 which held at the State House Banquet Hall in Abuja.

Business owners in Nigeria to get loans up to N10m without collateral

<h1>Mother of late Al-Qaeda leader, Osama Bin Laden’s mother, Alia Ghanem has narrated how her son was brainwashed by cultists.</h1>

According to CNN, she said Osama was a good boy until he met Abdullah Azzam, a Muslim Brotherhood member in the university.

Ghanem said that the Muslim Brotherhood operated like a cult, adding that her son got involved with the group in the higher institution.

“The people at university changed him. He became a different man.

“He was a very good child until he met some people, who pretty much brainwashed him in his early 20s.

“You can call it a cult; they got money for their cause.

“I would always tell him to stay away from them and he would never admit to me what he was doing because he loved me so much,” she told The Guardian.

Osama bin Laden’s mother, Alia Ghanem is an Alawite from Syria.

She was divorced by Osama’s father, Mohammed bin Laden when he was three years old.

Osama stayed with his mother who got married again to Mohammed al-Attas, who later raised him.

The Al-Qaeda leader’s father died in a plane crash when he was 10 years-old leaving 53 children and about 20 wives.

Osama bin Laden and Abdullah Azzam formed Al-Qaeda in 1988 and the group was prominent in the war against the Soviet Army, who reportedly invaded Afghanistan.

Al-Qaeda was tagged a terrorist organisation by the United Nations Security Council, the North Atlantic Treaty Organization (NATO), the European Union, <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/news/world/osama-bin-laden-us-puts-late-terrorists-son-on-blacklist-id5999719.html" id="67d19dc0-1d02-5b5f-9461-de50f9e726bd">the United States</a> and many other countries because of its attacks.

Notable among some attacks carried out by Al-Qaeda include the 1998 US Embassy bombings in Tanzania and Kenya and the September 11, 2001 attack on the World Trade Center in New York that left over 2000 people dead.

The September 11, 2001 attacks which is now known as the 9/11 attacks was reportedly co-ordinated by Al-Qaeda under the supervision of Osama Bin-Laden.

The attacks, which left over 2000 people dead and 6,000 others injured was carried out using four passenger planes that were hijacked by terrorists.

Two, American Airlines Flight 11 and United Airlines Flight 175, were commandeered and used to crash into the North and South towers of the World Trade Center.

The third plane, American Airlines Flight 77, was crashed into the Pentagon building leading to the damage of a part of the structure, while the  fourth plane, United Airlines Flight 93 was forced to crash into a field in Stonycreek Township near Shanksville, Pennsylvania following the efforts of the heroic passengers.

Speaking on the 9/11 attacks, Osama’s mother, Ghanem said she was shocked at the news that her son had masterminded the attacks.

According to CNN, she said “We all felt ashamed of him. We knew all of us were going to face horrible consequences."

Ghanem saw her son last in 1999, when she reportedly went on the request of the Saudi government to convince the Al-Qaeda leader to stop his acts, according to Osama’s body guard, Abu Jandal.

CNN also reports that Jandal said the Al-Qaeda leader refused his mother’s plea, saying "This is a principle. I keep it in my heart and I have promised God not to abandon it."

Osama Bin Laden was <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/news/world/osama-bin-laden-cia-releases-vast-archive-seized-in-compound-id7543836.html" id="8e31cc79-cca7-59d7-b63f-37d2f8fce4e6">killed by US forces</a> in Pakistan in 2011.

According to BBC, a source at the Pentagon said that he was buried at sea after a Muslim funeral on board an aircraft carrier.

Ghanem said Osama was a good boy until he met Abdullah Azzam, a Muslim Brotherhood member in the university.

Mother narrates how late Al-Qaeda leader was brainwashed by ‘cultists’

<h3>Submission has been the most discussed topic among many couples, and in some religious circles. Its application has left most women, who sadly have been the victims on the receiving end.</h3>

We will start by breaking down Ephesians 5: 21 – 22 (KJV), the scripture that has been in the center of this subject or controversy, if you like.

We will also look at it from the Message translation to get a better understanding of what Paul was trying to communicate.

It is my understanding that Paul was not speaking of submission from the standpoint of oppression or lording over your wife.

Before we dive in fully, it will interest you to know that some bible scholars have suggested that the word Submit was missing in the Original Greek.

According to Equality Work book,“In the oldest available Greek manuscripts of the New Testament (Parchment 46 and Codex Vaticanus), Ephesians 5:22 does not say, “Wives submit to your husbands.”[ii]  Neither the heading, “Wives Submit to Your Husbands,” nor the additional phrase in Ephesians 5:24 telling wives that they “ought to be” submissive can be found in any Greek manuscripts whatsoever.

In this passage, the apostle Paul introduces the idea of “submission” in Ephesians 5:21.  After telling all Christians to “be filled with the Spirit” in Ephesians 5:18, he then explains what this will look like: “submitting one to another out of reverence for Christ” (Ephesians 5:21).  In other words, all Christians who are filled with the Holy Spirit are to relate to one another with Christ-like humility and a willingness to serve.  Ephesians 5:22  then adds the phrase “wives to your husbands” as an example of what this mutual submission will look like.

They further argue that “be filled with the Spirit” is the imperative verb; “submitting one to another” is a participle phrase (that describes being filled with the Spirit); and “wives to your husbands” is yet another phrase that qualifies “submitting one to another” by providing an example.  Simply put, “wives to your husbands” is not a complete sentence; it cannot stand on its own as a separate command.

"There is no new and separate command directed only to wives.  Patriarchal translators create the illusion that there are two different kinds of commands–one in Ephesians 5:21 directed to all Christians, and another in Ephesians 5:22 directed exclusively to wives.  The added command appears to reinforce a gender-based hierarchy in Christian homes.  It is important to recognize that this is not grammatically possible in the Greek text of the oldest available manuscripts.  It is only possible if a second imperative verb is inserted into verse 22.[iii]  The submission that exists in marriage from wives to husbands is one example of the humility and loving service that all Christians who are filled with the Spirit are called upon to demonstrate.”

Also, one thing you must understand was the patriarchal nature of the Jews, which did not favour women at that time.

You can see that played out in many instances in the scripture and in narratives which Paul himself made. This is not the subject of today’s discussion though.

Let us also take out time to see God’s original intention about marriage.

God’s intention for marriage was for the man and his wife to live together as one united entity, working together partners, co-heirs.

You can see that in Genesis 2 vs 24: Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be[a] joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

The fall of man brought about these tussle for dominance. If you read Genesis 3:16. you will understand that God never intended for man to dominate woman or vice-versa.

Genesis 3 Vs 16: Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.

The death and resurrection of Christ however abolished the effect of Adam and Eve’s transgressions, because Paul also let’s know in Galatians 3 that we are one in Christ.

Galatians 3 Vs 27-28 :  For as many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ.

There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.

Peter also highlighted that in 1 Peter. We will get to that.

Ephesians 5: 21-22 says Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord

The word submit is derived from a Greek word that means to put yourself under, to subject yourself to one’s control and it had two uses:

1. It was used as a military term meaning "to arrange [troop divisions] in a military fashion under the command of a leader".

2. It was also used in non-military way and it meant "a voluntary attitude of giving in, cooperating, assuming responsibility, and carrying a burden".

So, using the non-military term, we could say that Paul adviced us to submit (assume responsibility, carry burden, have a voluntary attitude of giving in to each other) first in verse 21 of Ephesians 5.

Then he asked wives to do likewise to their husbands, that is, working with the general understanding that the word submit was in the verse.

Now, someone is saying what of the word ‘as unto the Lord’ used in verse 22?

The proper explanation of that line is in Colossians 3:23. I will present several versions starting from the KJV, to give you a better insight.

King James Version says:  And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;

NET Bible says: Whatever you are doing, work at it with enthusiasm, as to the Lord and not for people,

According to the Aramaic Bible in Plain English, And do all that you do with all your soul, as for Our Lord, and not as for the children of men.

GOD'S Word Translation says: Whatever you do, do it wholeheartedly as though you were working for your real master and not merely for humans.

Whatever you are doing, let your hearts be in your work, as a thing done for the Lord and not for men - Weymouth New Testament

Another controversy in Ephesians 5:23

Another controversial verse is Ephesians 5 verse 23 which says: For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

The keyword to notice here, is Head (Kephale in Greek) which has been taken to mean rulership, boss or master, and it is not true.

The Greek word Kephale, was translated from the Hebrew word Rosh, which also literally means the Physical head on a body.

Rosh also could be used as leader, ruler, boss and whenever the translators were to use these terms, they used the Greek word, Archon and not Kephale.

You must understand that Paul was talking to pagan Greeks who just converted to Christianity and he used the word, Kephale to properly pass his message because they understood and used it in the worship of their Gods.

Most of the pagan Greeks saw the Gods they worshipped was their ‘source’.

The Greek word translated Head in that scripture can also be likened to the physical head on your body.

Use of the Greek word, Archon in the bible

Archon can be translated as: ruler, official, magistrate, leader

An example can be seen in 1 Corinthians 2 vs 8 which reads: The wisdom which none of the <a id="fa6d892a-fd73-4c10-8a06-d6bb72fa3420" href="">rulers</a> of this age has understood; for if they had understood it they would not have crucified the Lord of glory;

The word ruler there is from the same Greek word – Archon

Also, Mathew 9:23 says When Jesus came into the <a id="3dd76958-d3b6-472b-882f-986426b42efa" href="">official's</a> house, and saw the flute-players and the crowd in noisy disorder…

You will find the word Archon used in several verses of the bible.

According to the translation from the new testament Greek, Kephale also connotes source or originator.

According to scholars, it signifies is that the husband is the source of the wife as Christ is the source of the Church.

In other words, the wife was created from the man, her husband, who is her nourisher, motivator just as Christ is the nourisher of the Church.

What Paul was actually communicating was a culture of love and not that of control, which he showed, by depicting Christ’s relationship with the Church.

Christ never forces us, his Church and his bride to do anything. He never lords his will over us. He lovingly guides us.

To make this clear, let’s see how the Message translation puts Ephesians 5 vs 23. It says: The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands.

You can also see Paul depict Christ as the source of everything in Colossians 1 verse 16-18:For by him were all things created, that are in heaven, and that are in earth, visible and invisible, whether they be thrones, or dominions, or principalities, or powers: all things were created by him, and for him:

And he is before all things, and by him all things consist.

And he is the head of the body, the church: who is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead; that in all things he might have the preeminence.

Can you see that the same word, head is used here also to kind of summarise what he said in verse 16 and 17.

For those who would want to argue over the word, ‘pre-eminence’, in the Greek, it means: the first, foremost, number one.

The scripture says: And not holding the Head, from which all the body by joints and bands having nourishment ministered, and knit together, increaseth with the increase of God.

Note that the word Head used here, is the same Greek word Kephale. The verse paints an exact picture of Christ’s relationship with the Church.

From the verse, you will see that Christ nourishes, ministers to, knits together and causes his Church to increase.

That is what the husband is expected to be or do to and for his wife.

Paul was painting this picture when he said in Ephesians 5:23 that: For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

Basically, he was saying treat your wife as Christ treated the Church.

You can also find the word Head being used in 1 Corinthians 11:3 where it says: But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

The word Head used here again, means source and not in a way of hierarchy. If it meant hierarchy, then you are saying that God is greater than Christ, which negates the oneness of the Trinity - the God head – That is the Father, Son and the Holy Ghost being one united entity.

Remember Jesus said in John 10:30: I and my father are one.

From the above explanations, you will understand that Paul started from verse 21 to advise Christians to submit themselves to God, knowing that this in turn will affect the way you treat each other in the marriage with the help of the Holy Ghost who he referred to in verse 18.

<a id="82386caf-3982-4ef0-9bfb-46a917806894" href="">18</a>And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit;

<a id="ad28cde8-b370-4d7c-9f11-a942142f8bee" href="">19 </a>Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord;

<a id="363f1927-dc7b-43f1-ac7f-c73d5b74d266" href="">20 </a>Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ;

<a id="d6cb23ca-c4e7-4860-97c9-4182680284ca" href="">21 </a>Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.

<a id="b024b7ca-e4c7-419d-a5ed-e69e9b892859" href="">22 </a>Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

Simply put, you are first a Christian before a husband or wife and to live this life, you need the help of the Holy Spirit who will show you how to submit yourself to God first then, it will be easy to submit to one another.

1 Peter 3 Vs 7-10 says: <a id="c629ca91-9fd4-42a0-8768-33d0cd04ca90" href="">7</a> Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

<a id="77088f61-8ae7-4daf-8950-2a47d2df82d7" href="">8 </a>Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:

<a id="fbea7243-6d32-4a6c-a64a-42450dcc6792" href="">9</a> Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.

<a id="4bc1917b-26d2-4443-a5b0-184653d118f3" href="">10 </a>For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile.

I will like you to notice that verse 7 advised the man, among other things, to see his wife as heirs together of the grace of life.

It is my understanding that Paul also told the husband that his prayer might be hindered if he treats his wife badly.

Paul, in asking the wives to submit, was speaking in terms of one of the major needs of men – Respect.

Men want to be respected by their wives and to get the best out of your marriage, showing your husband respect will bring out the best in him.

He also addressed the need of women to be loved as you will soon see in the scripture below, and also urged the man to love his wife.

Paul also tried to show the effect which submitting yourself to God and the Holy Spirit would have on your marriage.

If you submit to God, it will be easy for the husband to submit and serve the wife and vice-versa.

He made it clear by also sharing how Christ leads the Church with love and not by force in verse 23.

Here is what Ephesians 5 vs 25 – 33 (MSG) says: <a id="d88f3b2d-392a-4fdc-87a4-70b9afdf7cbc" href="">25-28</a>Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage.

If you submit yourselves to God, it will be easy for the husband to submit and serve the wife and vice-versa.

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<h1>The Police Command in Enugu State says it has rescued Pa Michael Obi, father of Mikel Obi, Captain of the Super Eagles, from the kidnappers’ den in a community in the state.</h1>

The Command’s Spokesman, SP Ebere Amaraizu, disclosed this in a statement issued on Monday evening in Enugu.

Amaraizu said the feat was achieved by the command’s operatives from the 9 Mile Division on Monday at about 2.30 p.m.

He said that the police operatives through a well-coordinated operation, rescued Pa Obi and his driver, one Ishaya John, unhurt in Egede axis of Udi Forest of Enugu State along Old Egede Affa road in the state.

The police spokesman said that the operatives also recovered Pa Obi’s Toyota Prado jeep.

“It was gathered that Pa Michael Obi and his driver were abducted along Makurdi-Enugu Road on June 29 in the afternoon on his way from Jos in his grey-coloured Toyota Prado jeep with registration number: MUS 604 CG and taken to an unknown destination through the thick forest part of the area.

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