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<h2>It is hard to imagine a man that does not like a woman who is vocal in bed.</h2>

And the things guys want to hear during sex range from pleasurable moans, how well they are doing and dirty talk (for those that find such things sexy.)

The list actually stretches further but this article aims to focus on something else – what are the things women should not say during sex?

We list the things women should avoid saying during sex because they could ruin the moment.

As you might have heard, sex is more physical for men and emotional for women. And while clarifying issues of the heart is not a bad thing, many men would rather have you discuss it before or after sex… not during.

Emotional matters are best left for after sex. Another option is to do it before sex. [Nickie Petraki]

Rihanna saying no [Credit: Nickie Petraki]

This is another example of how women quickly merge sex and emotions [mind you, no one is saying it’s a bad thing.]

Women usually reserve this question till after sex, but for some reason, some babes pop it during the act. Let’s assume you didn’t know men find it unsexy. Now you do. So, maybe stop it?

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This is after you have probably been kissing and touching his body and letting him feel yours for about 10 or 15 minutes.

Please, ladies, stop asking this question because, of course, you know he’s not trying to undress you for academic or medical purposes! So why ruin the moment with this kind of question?

Knowing when to ask questions, and when not to, is so important [HBO]

<h2>4. Do you think I’m overweight?</h2>

Weight is one sensitive issue that many women are insecure about and this, of course, is what makes them ask the question.

But, hey, aren’t y’all having sex already? Doesn’t that tell you that he has no qualms about what your body looks or feels like?

It’s better to clear this issue before you both get naked. Seriously. Besides, there are men who love big women. When in doubt, just assume he's one of those guys and enjoy the moment.

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Even if he now happens to not like your body, the best time to discuss it is not during sex. Wait till afterwards.

Don't douse your partner's sexual urge by ruining the mood with an unnecessary, ill-timed conversation [iStock]

<h2>5. What about the money I asked for?</h2>

LOL. Think this is just plain and simple blackmail, really. Women know men would say and grant any request during sex and they just exploit it.

Later, these same women will say men are scum.

Extra question: Aren’t you done?

When a couple communicates regularly, they ten to understand each other better, and how to please each other to the max. [Credit: Shutterstock]

We list the things women should avoid saying during sex because they could ruin the moment.

Ladies! Here are 5 things you shouldn't say to your man during sex

<h2>Sex before marriage makes sense to some people, and to some, waiting till that wedding night is the ideal thing to do.</h2>

Choices will be choices and everyone is entitled to make the ones that appeal to them best. Whatever the choice you make on premarital sex, it is undeniable that there’s no time like the first night of officially being husband and wife to set the foundation of a happy and healthy sex life.

It can be a special night for anyone; and especially if you are a virgin and you’ve been looking forward to your wedding night all along, it will mean even more to you.

If you have never had sex and your wedding night will be your very first time, here are some helpful tips to make your wedding night sex an unforgettable for you and yours.

Wedding Night Virgins can make the best of it by preparing their minds for it [Credit: Getty Images]

The moment you have been looking forward to for such a long, long time! And it's perfectly normal to be nervous. But regardless, make the effort to relax because without it, you may struggle to enjoy the moment and you don’t want that.

Foreplay will help you do this. This means there's no rush, so don't rush it. Women need about 20 minutes to warm up on an average day. You may need some extra time after this to properly get into it. And that’s fine. Your new husband <s>should</s> will understand

Lubrication is needed and very important. [Credit: Walgreens]

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If you are a virgin, natural lubrication may be a bit of an issue. It's normal and nothing to be bothered about.

Just prepare adequately for it by either telling you significant other to get a tube of water-based lubricant ahead of the big day. You could also purchase it yourself.

You totally should splurge on this ‘frivolity’ because it’s your first time ever, and also the consummation of your new marriage.

Wearing something that is in his favorite color will be mighty sexy, too.

It is actually true that many couples do not get to eat at their wedding reception and that could be you, too. You may be too busy for food so while these foods may boost your passion on the night, they’ll also double as much a needed source of strength and nutrition.

Dark chocolate, honey, red wine are really good.

So long as things are taken slow and easy, it should be just fine. [Credit: Video Block]

Intimacy in relationships can be boosted by spicy food [Credit: Video Block]

So long as things are taken slow and easy, having sex will be a lot more comfortable for you. It's all about knowing how to ease into things, starting with positions that will make sex a bit more comfortable. The tried-and-true missionary position tops the list, <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/hotpulse/virgins-3-new-sex-positions-for-first-timers/ryq9bq8">as do other sex positions mentioned here.</a>

Sex before marriage makes sense to some people, and to some, waiting till that wedding night is the ideal thing to do.

Here's everything to know about being a virgin on your wedding night

<h2>While trying to get into a relationship, other woman would often be beset by concerns such as trying to decipher the real intent of the man showing interest in them, they wonder if the man [and the potential relationship] will be worth their time and effort, if he is emotionally intelligent, good enough in bed, if he knows how to communicate and treat women right, if he will be faithful amongst other considerations.</h2>

For virgins, particularly those who intend to stay that way till marriage, the worries include all of these and more, thereby making dating and relationships in this age seem just a little more difficult for this group of woman.

Dating seems to be a little more difficult for women who want to do it without any form of sexual contact. [Credit: Net Doctor]

It could lead to unfavourable comparisons and tension in the relationship [Credit: Net Doctor]

The major concern is usually how to get one who shares the same no-sex value like them. Virgin and celibate women often hope to meet men whose stance on sex is one of genuine abstinence. <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/5-reasons-why-celibacy-before-marriage-still-rocks-id8634189.html">Abstinence that comes as a result of personal decision and conviction</a> as opposed to one which is activated just because you say you do not want to have sex till you are married. While affection alongside a strong decision to be with you at all costs could make this goal possible for such man, it is usually more difficult for sexually-active men to date celibate women without hitches. Many times, pressure for sex eventually creeps into the mix and things usually just go downhill from there.

It goes without saying, of course, that just as the intention to stay a virgin is yours, the decision to lose it is yours, too.

Another relationship struggle virgin women often have is the fear of losing some special connection with someone once he finds out that they do not intend to have sex in the nearest future. Some struggle with when to tell a prospective partner that they have never had sex – to get it off their chest immediately a guy starts showing interest or go on few dates and test the waters a little longer before giving out that information.

Dr. Rebekah Montgomery is a clinical psychologist in Boston, USA specializing in couples therapy, premarital counseling, and relationship issues. [Credit: Zencare]

“Timing around disclosure is important,” licensed clinical psychologist Rebekah Montgomery tells Insider. This isn’t something you have to share with someone unless you are seriously considering having sex with them … soon,” she continues.

“Often, people feel as though this is something they just have to get off their chest and rush to share in a way that isn’t helpful for you or your new potential love interest. You can share this intimate truth with someone when you know they are someone you feel comfortable being intimate with,” says Montgomery.

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It is also important to realise that there are men out here who also want to stay off sex just as some women hope to. So whether you are still a virgin because you want to keep it till marriage or just because you have not yet met the right man to give it up for, you would need to communicate this.

The decision to stay celibate is your decision and should be respected without you having to be apologetic for it [Credit : Video Blocks]

Wooman in yellow portrait [Credit: Video Blocks]

Wooman in yellow portrait [Credit : Video Blocks]

Beyond transparency about your decision to remain celibate, like any other dater, you should lay out your expectations for the relationship – whether you are dating intentionally for marriage or just for fun.

“We tend to make assumptions about dating and sex, but there is no one-size-fits-all approach, so the only way to know if you and your date are on the same page is to be open about your beliefs, plans, and expectations,”&nbsp;Dr. Jess O’Reilly, a Canadian sexologist, tells Insider.

Dr. Jess O'Reilly believes women should never have to be apologetic about wanting to stay celibate for as long as they want to be [Credit: The Gate]

And it is important that you are only communicating your decisions, not trying to justify or seek acceptance. It would be nice for people to accept and respect your position on sex [especially someone you like and wouldn’t mind being in a relationship with] but ultimately, the need for acceptance should lead you to betraying yourself and how you truly feel inside.

&nbsp;“If you’ve opted to delay or abstain from sex, that’s your prerogative. You don’t have to apologize and you shouldn’t have to explain yourself — just as someone who opts to have sex at an earlier age does not need to explain or rationalize their choices,” O’Reilly recommends.

“There are many reasons you may not have had sex yet. You don’t have to over-explain it… You don’t have to justify why you’ve waited to have sex,” Montgomery adds.

Renee Slanksy, a licensed relationship and dating coach has more to say on this:

While trying to get into a relationship, other woman would often be beset by concerns such as trying to decipher the real intent of the man showing interest in them, they wonder if the man [and the potential relationship] will be worth their time and effort, if he is emotionally intelligent, good enough in bed, if he knows how to communicate and treat women right, if he will be faithful amongst other considerations.

Dating as a virgin: How to avoid the pitfalls and deal with its difficulties

<h3>Falling in love, or at least, being really attracted to a colleague at work is a well known phenomenon, especially for those with regular 9-5 jobs.</h3>

Many times, people with jobs find themselves bonding with members of the opposite sex at work. For single people, this scenario creates problems such discomfort, awkwardness and other difficulties explained better in <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/the-dos-and-donts-of-dating-a-colleague-at-work-id8200384.html">this article here</a>

For those who have partners, the problems are even worse. The real possibility of cheating on your partner stares you in the face every morning you resume at work. It’s a clear case of ‘damned if you do, damned if you don’t.’

You cannot avoid seeing that <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/how-you-know-a-work-colleague-is-crushing-on-you-id5660364.html">your colleague that you have a serious crush on</a> except you refuse to show up at work. On the other hand, a refusal to show up at work could lead to other obvious problems.

From the foregoing, it seems that for every advantage of having a romantic or sexual relationship with a colleague at work, there is also a crippling disadvantage; which explains why many people would rather not mix business with pleasure. If people could avoid falling or being attracted to their colleagues, the apparently would.

So the question is; why are people always falling in love with each other at work? The simple reason is proximity.

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"Most adults spend a minimum of 1,680 hours per year in the office, so you are likely to spend more time with your coworkers than almost anyone else," says David Brudö, CEO and cofounder of a mental well-being app called Remente. "While you do not have a say in who your coworkers are, chances are that you will have common interests."

He includes that working in an office gives you the opportunity to get to know someone in a way that you may not be able to do if you had to meet them on a dating site or say, at some other random place.

"Working with someone daily, you will see how they respond to a problem, act under pressure, and interact with other coworkers," he adds. "It is also easy to start sharing personal information and commiserating about difficulties faced in the office -- perhaps over a lunch or after-work drinks."

According to research from UK company, Total Jobs, 22% of people meet their actual romantic partner at work, too. That's compared to 13% meeting online, 18% meeting through friends, and 10% finding each other on a night out.

About 17% of people also have a "work spouse," who they constantly message, talk to about the stresses of work, and hang out with.

*This article was originally published in 2018.

Falling in love, or at least, being really attracted to a colleague at work is a well known phenomenon, especially for those with regular 9-5 jobs.

This is why it's easy to fall in love with a colleague at work

<h2>For the ladies, though, there is usually a hesitation when it comes to being the first one to act on such attraction.</h2>

Often times, when babes see guys they really have a crush on, they’d hardly shoot their shot, no matter how intense the attraction is.

While it’s always advised that women should shoot their shots and go after men they fancy, we also understand that there are women who are either shy, uncomfortable, <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/ladies-why-you-should-ask-guys-out-without-fear-of-rejection-id7603135.html">fear rejection</a> or are just plain traditional and <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/5-times-you-shouldnt-shoot-your-shot-with-a-guy-id8407879.html">would rather not do this.</a>

There are women who are either shy, uncomfortable or ﻿fear rejection﻿ so badly that they would rather not shoot your shot.  [Credit: CreativeKenya]

Do not guiltrip yourself to taking your ex back [Credit: CreativeKenya]

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For women who fall in this category, there’s still a chance that you’ll get the guy without having to ask him directly.

The simple answer is in positioning. Instead of <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/this-nigerian-mum-helped-her-daughter-shoot-her-shot-id7918795.html">outrightly shooting your shot</a> and coming at him head on, be a little subtle about it. Make friends and engage him in conversations – both fun and serious ones.

“Get him talking about something he loves. When a guy's talking about something he's really into, he'll get amped and subconsciously associate those feel-good vibes with you,” writes Kelly Thore of Cosmopolitan.

The secret is to put yourself in his line of vision and see where things go from there [Credit: PeopleImages/Getty]

The physical appearance is the only point of attraction. One thing that carries a relationship far is the level of emotional maturity present in both partners. [Credit: Getty Images]

When <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/how-communication-works-in-relationships-id6952819.html">communication</a> is constant and regular, you likely get to hear their secrets, and also exchange information on stuff that makes you both happy.

There’re something about communicating with someone every time that makes the heart grow fond of them and foster some deep connection.

If you somehow build communication till you guys do it every time and subtly drop date hints and sly romantic innuendos here and there, he’ll be asking you out in no time.

It may or my not be as successful as asking him clearly. Still, the secret here is in slyly getting your crush to come after you and to make him think he initiated the relationship, whereas it was your plan all along.

In the end, just get your man without having to ask. He’ll think he asked, but of course, you’ll know he only got tangled in your well-executed operation-snatch-the-bae scheme.

Sly like a pocket thief and effective like black magic.

Too shy to shoot your shot? Here's what to do [Credit: Black Enterprise]

For the ladies, though, there is usually a hesitation when it comes to being the first one to act on such attraction.

How to get your crush without shooting your shot

I have been in a relationship for over five months now.

I have come to love this girl very much and all I do is show her to my family and the world at large because I am proud of her.

On her side, she keeps on telling me that she loves me very much and she will do anything for to keep us but my girlfriend has never posted a picture of me on Facebook or any other media platform to show to her friends and family that she is in a relationship with me.

Is she really proud of me or perhaps there's another guy she's seeing? I feel I am blinded to this relationship. What should I do?&nbsp;_______________

This could be nothing to be bothered about, and if that is the case I think you should not blow a molehill problem into mountainous proportions.

One of the things you need to know first is that your babe could just be one of those people who don’t see any reason why they should be posting their <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/love-on-the-internet-the-importance-of-social-media-pda-in-relationships-id6271682.html" id="473f0777-cfad-5a8f-af7e-d87091d59100">love life and other private details on social media</a>. If that’s the case, I think you need to cut her some slack and just keep enjoying your relationship.

She prefers <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/how-have-a-private-relationship-without-being-secretive-id7204278.html" id="fda8d559-7cd1-5650-9a76-decdae132180">a private relationship</a> and you don’t. That’s fine. Post all your pictures if that’s your way of expressing love. She really does not have to, because that’s not particularly her style.

However, to make you happy, she could bend backwards few times and go out of character <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/instagram-rules-for-couples-id6120630.html" id="9a9a952d-71bc-58f4-a54f-a52bb31471f8">to show you off</a> To make this happen, please have a conversation with her. Not from a position of entitlement or with an authoritative tone. Like I said, she does not have to if that’s not her style. But if she loves you, she should be able to concede to this need occasionally just to make you happy.

On the other hand, if she’s the type who <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/overusing-social-media-is-often-a-sign-if-relationship-problem-id6108860.html" id="b6c02961-b057-5f2d-9214-5a6d3ac75016">posts everything about her life on social media</a> but conspicuously leave you out of all those channels, then, yes, you do have a reason to be concerned.

In this case, too, it is a conversation you should have with her. That, and a keener sense of observation for more signs of <a href="https://www.pulse.ng/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/3-ways-to-catch-a-cheating-girlfriend-id8169072.html" id="f26d6c69-aecb-5a3e-9763-86df9ec04ca7">foul play on her part.</a>

I hope, however, that this isn’t the case. I like love stories that never end, and I hope this is one of those which just needs a little straightening and nudging to set it back on a right course.

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So, why not send that mail today and let's talk about it? A problem shared is a problem half-solved!

My girlfriend has never posted a picture of me on Facebook or any other media platform to show that she is in a relationship with me.

My girlfriend doesn’t show me off on social media, what does this mean?

<h2>Everyone, and more especially women want to be certain that they are the only one except, of course, those that willingly became side chicks.</h2>

Even at that, everyone still wants to be sure the terms on which they entered into the relationship/situationship has not changed. People want to feel special not just at the beginning but for the entire duration of the relationship – a duration which is often hoped would be endless.

So how exactly does one give assurance to his girlfriend or the woman in his life?

PRO TIP: You don’t have to have ₦30 billion in the account to do any of these.

Look her in the eye, tell her she’s the only one. [Credit everyday feminism]

Happy woman on a date [Credit everyday feminism]; You can be single and balling [Credit Youtube];

Happy woman on a date [Credit everyday feminism]

<h3>1. Assure her that she’s the only one</h3>

Look her in the eye, tell her she’s the only one. Hold her face in your hands as you say so. Be close enough for the timbre of your voice to create gentle echoes in her heart and spread into every tiny bit of her consciousness.

She needs to be reassured that despite how rough life can get sometimes, she’s still the one you&nbsp;with whom you want to find calmness, the one with whom, and in whose arms you want to enjoy *-the peace and tranquility that always comes after the storm.

And mean it every time you say it.

She wants to be sure that this is not just about the here and now. The future is also assured. [Credit: Pinterest]

Valentine's day engagements.[Credit: Pinterest]

<h3>2. Reassure her that she’s beautiful</h3>

Yes, her beauty drew you in. The alignment of her eyes and nose and lips and the way her smile lit something inside you and made your heart skip like a lamb… it all made you die for her. And it wasn’t until you got her that you felt alive again.

Never let her forget this. You need to always reassure her that she’s still beautiful, that time has not put a film too thick in your eyes to stop you from seeing how pretty she is.

The problem is that guys often forget this. They often become numb to the beauty their babes are. Don’t be that guy who forgets to melt at the terrific beauty he’s been blessed with. Always remind yourself of how lucky you are and let her know about it. Other guys may say it, but she needs it for you.

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Ok. You may think I do not have ₦30Billion in your account but you actually do not need a Porsche before to impress your girl.

<a href="http://www.pulse.ng/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/what-to-do-if-your-partners-love-language-is-receiving-gifts-id7156308.html">Little gifts, grand gifts</a>, every one you give within your means to please your girl are assurances that you have her in your mind and that she’s special.

Don’t ever forget to keep assuring her.

Every action that confirms your love to her, never hesitate to do them. [Credit: Videoblocks]

A man and his girlfriend take a selfie [Credit: Videoblocks]

She wants to be sure that this is not just about the here and now.

Sure, everyone wants to live in the moment and it’s good to not overthink things, but she also needs reassurances that the future is secure and she’s not just wasting her today with you.

<a href="http://www.pulse.ng/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/loving-a-partner-with-acts-of-service-as-their-love-language-id7151030.html">Acts of love and service</a> to her are reassuring enough, too, without having to say a word.

Every action that confirms your love to her, never hesitate to do them. The goal is to never let her forget, to never let things get into doubt.

Men are said to be randier than women, but even at that, they, too, have moments when they don't want to have sex. [Credit Pinterest]

Everyone, and more especially women want to be certain that they are the only one except, of course, those that willingly became side chicks.

5 reassurances your girlfriend needs to hear regularly

<h2>For the side-chick, it is usually an endless loop of promises and empty dreams.</h2>

Men who cheat on their wives would always lay promises of leaving their wives in order to marry these other women. Accusations of being terrible in bed, being old and fat among other things will be thrown around against the wife regularly. But guess what? They still won’t leave her.

Men who cheat on their wives always seem to thrive on juggling their lives and sharing their time between their family and their secret affair. It is like biting huge chunks out of your cake every time and still having it right there in full.

<h2>These are reasons why cheating married men never leave their wife for side chick:</h2>

Men recognize the high standing they have in the society as married people and they usually&nbsp;do not want to lose out on that. Many of these cheating men are respected members of society’s institutions like church, mosques, companies, etc.

So to leave their wife for no reason, just to be with the side chick, mistress or sugar girl will be the very last thing on their minds.

They may pull of their wedding rings for days of cheating. But to let go of it completely is usually difficult for most married men. [Credit Le Club  Symphonie Getty Images]

Man pullling off wedding ring [Credit: Le Club/Symphonie Getty Images]

Man pullling off wedding ring [Credit Le Club  Symphonie Getty Images]

With statements like “all men cheat” and “it’s fine if he cheats so far he respects me enough to keep it away from me,” many women have given men hall passes to cheat as they want.

The bar is set lower when women intentionally choose to be in the dark concerning their husband’s sneaky ways. And by refusing to hold them to the expected standard of faithfulness, wives allow these men roam, waiting at home with open arms for whenever they return home.

And we really can’t blame women that much actually. Society has been so structured in a way that makes women believe and accept that having a man who cheats is better than being single at some certain age, or worse, being single with kids or being divorced.

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Married men cheat and somehow stay in love with their partner. [Credit: Shutterstock]

Now the idea that someone would love his wife and cheat on her may sound seriously conflicted but it does seem to happen. People who claim to love their wives have been known to have side chicks despite a staunch, unshakable decision to never let go of the wife no matter how good the mistress gets.

Many times for this kind of man, the side chick is just all fun and games and he must have already compartmentalised his mind to keep it that way forever. He’d rather replace the side chick than leave his wife for her.

Married men often want to continue enjoying the best of marriage and infidelity. [Credit: Starz]

Omari Hardwick and Lela Loren star as James 'Ghost' St. Patrick and Angela 'Angie' Valdez on the Starz TV show "Power".

Also, married men don’t leave their wives for side chicks because they want their children to grow in a ‘functional’ and ‘complete’ family.

<h2>5. Why disturb a formula that works?</h2>

If you have been giving him sex without commitment all along, allowing him the benefit of your luscious body before he returns to his family at night, why would he suddenly want to change that?

No one changes a working formula. A cheating man would always want to continue enjoying the best of both worlds. Why disrupt that?

Angela Valdez, James St Patrick [Credit Starz]

For the side-chick, it is usually an endless loop of promises and empty dreams.

5 reasons married men won't leave their wives for side-chicks

<h2>What will your reaction be if your partner still masturbates even though you have an active sexual life?</h2>

For most women like Dammy, this could be the end of that relationship, especially if it's a serious relationship.

Dammy, 26, is an entrepreneur in Lagos whose boyfriend confessed to habitual masturbation.

"I know we don't have sex all the time because of distance and all, but we do every time we spend time together.

"Do you think I don't feel horny in his absence, too? If I can hold it in till we see, I'm disappointed he can't hold out for me, too," she says.

She then asks "Why do guys even masturbate when they have girlfriends with whom they can fulfil their sexual desires?"

Five guys provide answers to this question below:

“I’m not masturbating because my girlfriend isn’t enough for me sexually or anything like that. It’s just something I do. It’s something I’ve always done. I don’t even give it a second thought. It feels good and it&nbsp;relieves tension. That’s all I have to say about it, really," Sam says.

<h3>2. It’s part of our sex routine</h3>

According to Tunde, “My girlfriend and I actually&nbsp;masturbate in front of each other&nbsp;sometimes.

"She’s more into it than me, I think, because she was the one who initiated it the first time, but it’s really hot. If you haven’t tried it, you should.”

<h3>3. It reduces premature ejaculation</h3>

And in Chinedu’s case, helping himself reach climax is important to his sexual relationship with his partner.

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“I think masturbation helps make me a better lover, which is one reason I still do it even when I have a girlfriend. If I don’t have an orgasm for a few days, I’m pretty sensitive and cum quickly. Usually too quickly,” he says.

Folarin's partner is pregnant, so it is “My fiancé is pregnant, and we’re not having sex as much as we were before that happened. I think that’s normal. So sometimes I masturbate.”

Sometimes, boredom hits and for Benson, tugging one out is a quick fix for that.

Ayoola Adetayo

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