Should you tell your partner about your flirty coworker? 3 guys weigh in

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March 18, 2017 12:47 PM

So someone at the office is giving off more-than-friends vibes—and you're attached.

Should you tell your partner about a flirty colleague.

Plus, find out if its as harmless as you think.

So someone at the office is giving off more-than-friends vibes—and you're attached. Lots of great love stories started off at work: Jim Halpert and Pam Beesly, Leslie Knope and Ben Wyatt, Don Draper and Megan Calvet (oh, scratch that last one). But if winding up with dude who's spitting game by the copy machines isn't your endgame, you might be wondering whether you're obligated to share this info with your S.O.

To help you decide whether to share those flirty facts or not, we enlisted three of the gents who put the "men" in Men's Health for some real talk.

Hear them out:

Tell Him—If You Love Petty Fights

"Your guy assumes people flirt with you; bring it up, and he'll likely think you're fishing for attention. If the dude makes a move, though, tell him to back off, then inform your man."—Dean Stattmann, brand editor

Nope. You Need To Fix This

"It's your responsibility—not your boyfriend's—to handle the situation if it's going too far. Leave the banter unreciprocated and the double entendres unappreciated. Coworker not picking up? Tell him straight up." —Paul Kita, senior editor

Are You Flirting Too?

"On the work-flirt scale, a one is hellos in the hallway, and a 10 is a rendezvous in the storage closet. Even if you're flirting back, your man doesn't need to know if you're at a harmless 4 or below. Higher, though, and you should ask yourself if your actions are innocent." —Michael Sneeden, senior video producer

The Consensus

Flirting with others, even innocently, isn't a good date-night topic, since it may stir up jealousy or make you seem insecure. But if your colleague crosses the line with unwanted language or advances, notify him and your guy—and human resources, if it comes to that.

For more relationship advice, check out the April 2017 issue of Women's Health on newsstands now.

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