Let your partner know who you really are. Set aside some time each day just to talk about the things that are important to each of you as individual.
Treat your partner the way you would treat a good and trusted friend with respect, consideration and kindness.
Words plus deeds
Saying I LOVE you carries much more weight when you consistently do things that your partner values.
Don't argue over money
It’s practically a guaranteed relationship killer. If you haven’t yet had a conversation about how money is earned, spent saved, and shared, do it now. Try to get an understanding of how much each of you sees your financial life and where the differences are.
Try not to focus on trifles
Is it worth fighting about? More to the point is it really trifle? Often a seemingly minor issue is a manifestation of a larger problem. Talk about what is really bothering you instead of how loud the Television is.
Share your thoughts
Your hopes. Your fears. Your passions. Let your partner know who you really are. Set aside some time each day just to talk about the things that are important to each of you as individual.
Resolve arguments together
When couples fight, it is all too easy to get locked into a win /lose dynamic . think of your disagreement as a problem for you both to solve , not a fight for you to win. Think of saying WE before giving into the temptation of casting blame on the other person.
Show affection daily
Sex is one thing. Holding hands, a hug, a squeeze on the arm- all create connection and trust. If you are not getting as much attention as you want, let it be known.
Focus on the positive
What do you appreciate about your partner? What first attracted you? What do you treasure about your life together?
Nothing kills a buzz like a negative or absent response to something you are enthusiastic about.
Recognize that all relationships have ups and downs
Think long term. Your relationship is an investment, like the stock market. Ride out the down times. With the right kind of attention, they will be temporary.
Respect each other when arguing
It is all too tempting to use whatever ammunition you have got in the heat of battle. Ask yourself, where will it get you? A partner who is likely to come to your side, or one who will get even more defensive? Ask your partner how he or she sees the problem.
Have each other's back
And let that be known.
Set goals as a couple
Talk about how you want your relationship to look in a year, five years, ten years. Then work towards that goal
Make your partner a priority
That is why you are in this relationship in the first place