What if he trusts you to be faithful to your relationship so he sees no point in getting worried about the new guy in your office who sends you flowers every Friday?
He says fine, tells you how much he loves you and says ‘get well soon’. He then decides to pass by the mall to get you your favourite ice cream and surprise you with it at home. He gets to the mall and bumps into you having a good time with your ex who you still have a thing for.
Here’s what your boyfriend does: he pull up a chair and joins the pizza party. After a month or two, he still shows no sign that he is worried; not a single sign of jealousy.
He really does not love you- did he literally catch you in bed with another man and showed no signs of jealousy? Is he more protective of his Benz than he is of you? Maybe he doesn’t love you that much so he doesn’t feel that painful tug of the heart others feel the number one place they hold in their lover’s hearts is becoming compromised.
He trusts you- what if he trusts you to be faithful to your relationship so he sees no point in getting worried about the new guy in your office who sends you flowers every Friday?
He is one of those odd people who are incapable of jealousy- this may sound hard to believe, but there some people who never, ever, get jealous. Jealousy is an alien emotion to such people and your boyfriend may be one of those. The downside of this is it’s going to be really tough trying to get him jealous about other men. But why would want him to get jealous in the first place?
He goes full-blown insane when he does get jealous- there are some people who get into Incredible Hulk mode when they get jealous. As a result, they perfect the skill of compartmentalizing their emotions by deliberately choosing not to get jealous.
He sees jealousy as a mark of insecurity- according to Robert A. Heinlein, jealousy is invariably a symptom of neurotic insecurity. Heinlein may not be completely right in his claims, but most often jealousy is fuelled by feelings of insecurity than by love. If your boyfriend can swear on a stack of bibles that it is he you love, then it is expected that he won’t react jealously every time you go out with other people.
By Dede Williams