Fatherhood not for 'boys' - Otabil

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June 19, 2016 1:46 PM

He made this known when teaching his congregation about fatherhood on Father’s Day, which fell on Sunday, June 19.

Pastor Mensa Otabil, founder of the International Central Gospel Church (ICGC) has expressed concern over the rate at which most men are unable to control their sexual desires, especially in marriage.

According to him, it takes mature and responsible men to be able to impregnate a woman and take care of their children.

“...what makes you a man is not just expressing what you feel, it is controlling what you feel, because people sometimes say: ‘Well, if you feel it do it…but that doesn’t show you as a man, it shows you as a person who has no self-control. So, why do we think that when it comes to sexual instincts, if you feel it and do it, you are a man? No. It means you don’t have self-control. …It’s one of the most nonsensical things I’ve ever heard,” he said.“So, the process of becoming a man is that you learn to control your impulses. Things that are driving you hard, you learn to control it. …Unfortunately many boys never become men, they may grow in age and be 60 and they are still boys. They still play with their toys,” he added.Dr Otabil said: “If you don’t learn to become a man and [you] become a husband, it becomes ‘the boy becomes a husband,’ but the normal process [is that] ‘a boy becomes a man [and] a man becomes a husband’. When you learn to become a husband, you learn to give of yourself. Marriage makes you grow through sharing, if you don’t know how to share, you are going to be in marriage and be selfish; anytime you are upset, you pick your toys and go into your room. Instead of sharing your life, you just want to have fun. And there are some men who never grow, always having fun…meeting old school mates and having fun.”

He further advised men that "When you become a father, you learn to live and give beyond yourself. When you marry, you give of yourself, when you have a child, you give beyond yourself. When you have a child, you know that life goes beyond you, children are the extension of yourself to the next generation, but they are also going to demand from you more than you think you are capable of."

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